What is Divorce and Discernment Counseling?
Divorce and Discernment Counseling , at its core, is a therapeutic dialogue between myself and the partner who is wondering about whether or not they want to divorce their spouse. It may also occur between both partners when they are not sure if they want to continue with their relationship.
Why Divorce and Discernment Counseling?
The purpose of individual divorce and discernment counseling is to help the individual who is not sure about the divorce come to a decision regarding couples counseling. If a member of the relationship goes into couples counseling knowing that there goal is divorce regardless of what goes on, then the counseling is doomed from the beginning. In a divorce and discernment session with an individual we will work through there thoughts on the marriage, their own personal contributions to the problem as well as their understandings of their partners contributions. The point is not to push the individual in any one way, but to help them come to a decisions where they have considered all possible solutions. Speaking of solutions, there are three possible outcomes. Keep the marriage as is, move towards with divorce, or commit to 1-10 sessions of full on couples therapy. The partner who is leaning-in to the relationship is supported as well as the partner who is leaning out.