The Post About Social Anxiety
If someone hasn’t experienced it, trying to explain to them that you suffer from social anxiety is probably one of the more annoying experiences one could have. How else do you explain why you cancelled the latest outing, why you don’t want to visit their family, or, in some cases, why you appear nervous in public? If you are in school, you are dreading your public speaking class or, perhaps, the thought of making it to class late and having to walk in front of all of those people has made you adjust your schedule to a ridiculous degree.
I also used to suffer from the constant nagging thoughts of “I wonder if I look weird”, “I hope I don’t do or say something embarrassing”, and the most annoying “Can people tell that I’m nervous”? Thankfully, there is a trick to social anxiety. A trick that, once you master, can have you walking into social situations with comfort and ease. At this point, you might be thinking, “why won’t he just tell me what the trick is?”. I would love to, but if it were as simple as that, then no one would suffer from social anxiety. The trick is unique to each individual sufferer. The reason that one person is socially anxious could be the cure for another and vice versa. How I can be helpful is quickly helping you realize what your particular hangup is and offer a solution to your individual problem. Think about it, you probably experience the feelings of anxiety in a situation that occurs fairly regularly. Maybe it is a trip to the store, going to class, or talking with a particular person. You probably feel like you have tried “everything” and nothing has worked, so you are doing the best that you can to “manage”. I want to help you move past managing by using my “bird’s-eye” view to give you options that you can’t see because you are caught up in it. As you decide whether or not to give this is a chance, I want you to consider the following…
Imagine that you are stuck in large maze. All you have is a map and a compass. You have been walking around for hours and using your map diligently, but still can’t find the exit. What you don’t know is that your map is outdated. You have no way of knowing because you have been stuck in the maze. Would you ever think to question the map? Of course not, it is your only way to get out. Now imagine that I am in a helicopter above the maze. I can see all the dead ends, the roundabouts, and more importantly the exit. I throw you down a walkie-talkie and guide you out. That is what therapy is. You still have the choice of whether to listen to me or continue to use your faulty map.